Mother’s Day is always a funny day for those of us that struggle with infertility. If you dare to go on any form of social media, you will no doubt see pictures of mothers with their children and sappy, albeit beautifully written posts from sons and daughters touting the super women they are lucky enough to call mom. And while you’re so incredibly happy for the outpouring of love that every mother is receiving, there’s still a part of your heart that breaks if you’re not a mom but want to be.
So you know what? I might not be the mother of another human, but I’m most definitely the mother of three amazing animals. This is my mother’s day tribute to them.
Omar is an 11 year-old Rat Terrier. I got Omar when he was just an adorable little 6-week old puppy; practically small enough to fit in the palm of your hand.
Omar is an incredibly well-behaved little dude. He never wants to be too far away from Mom and Dad and prefers when both Lee and I are home together. If one of us is missing from the homestead, it’s safe to say that Omar will be laying in our bedroom, completely morose until we return.
Omar believes that he should be the center of our universe. He doesn’t appreciate when we pay too much attention to the cats, and he especially doesn’t like it when Lee and I pay too much attention to each other. In his mind, his spot on the couch, in bed, and in life should always be right between us.
Omar loves car rides, human food, wearing clothes, and an early bedtime. Yet, for as excited as he gets to go to bed at a decent hour, he still has so much life and playfulness in him. He especially loves to put on a show whenever we have friends over. He parades around with his squeaky toys, daring our guests to play tug of war. He’ll drop the toy at their feet, almost as if he’s offering a welcome present, only to snatch it back up and growl playfully as they try to wrench it from his mouth.
Omar has forever spoiled me as a dog mom. The love that he puts forth is so pure, so unconditional. I’m most definitely a better person for having been his mom.
I refer to Gladys as my “angel princess”. Named after my paternal grandmother because of her beautiful green eyes, Gladys is extremely cuddly and affectionate girl. She expects pets and head scratches first thing when you walk in the door, and she expects a lot of them. So much so, that if you even think about walking away from the pets before she’s had enough, you can expect that she will try to hook your hand with her paw to get your attention. Don’t be surprised if she also tries to bite you to get her point across. The good news, however, is that half of her teeth were removed last year due to a mouth infection, so when she bites, you won’t feel a thing. If she really wants to get her point across, she’ll just climb right on top of you and make herself comfortable.
Gladys enjoys pets, rubber bands, playing with her mouse toys, waking us up with meows in the middle of the night to let us know she’s playing with her mouse toys, dry food and me. She will accept affection from her father, but she’s a mama’s girl through and through. Gladys’ dislikes include playing with our other cat, Roger, and when any of the neighbor cats walk through our yard. Gladys spends many nights sleeping on my pillow, right above my head as if she’s my very own cat hat.
I’ve said before, in this blog and in daily conversation, but I’ll say it again: Gladys might very well be the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Gladys greets me at the door every day when I get home from work, ready for affection. Whenever I’m having a bad day, Gladys is there to make me feel better with cuddles and nuzzles. Cats can often be such finicky creatures, but I really hit the jackpot with this one.
How do I explain Roger? He’s just a super chill little dude. Actually, he’s not all that little. The fact that he helps himself to Omar’s food and attempts to steal food from Lee and I has given him a little bit of a pooch. He’s not fat per sé, but the vet has advised not to let him gain any more weight.
Roger came to us when he was 8 weeks old. He and Gladys took to each other initially, because he was an adorable helpless little kitten who needed a mom. However, he soon grew out of his cuddly phase and has been rocking the tormenting little brother phase for the last 5 and a half years.
Roger lives for food and naps. He also enjoys making space for himself in places where he doesn’t quite fit. He’s the most malleable cat I’ve ever met. You can pick him up, move him around, make him dance, whatever. He’s never bothered. And while he’s just as affectionate as Gladys, he’s not nearly as needy. Mostly he just wants a comfortable place to take one of his 500 daily naps.
He’s a creature of habit, following us to bed every night and staying with us straight through until morning. He takes turns sleeping between my legs and Lee’s but he’s definitely a “bros before hos” kind of cat. Most nights, Roger can be found “bro-ing” out with his dad and watching TV.
As I write this blog post, my heart is filled with such pride. While I hope our family isn’t done growing, I do have to say we are a pretty amazing little family of 5. These 3 (and Lee) are my absolute world. I’m so thankful to be their mom.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you amazing women out there. Whether you’re a Grandma, Mom, Mother-in-Law, Mother-to-Be, Cat Mom, Dog Mom, Aunt, Sister, or just one hell of a woman, you deserve to be celebrated for all you bring to the table.